My sister's reason is justified: She hoards candy and snacks and eats them behind my parents' back. My neighbours have recently had a baby. Drove it back to my house, put the bitch up. It can suggest tough competition in life. I would love to, believe me. I don't really understand why. If your parents are unfamiliar with the style, they may not know how easy they are to care for once you have them. I never understood why kids hoard food and hide snacks and shit like why? Also, locking the bathroom door was a heinous crime. I do not have a problem with drjimmy11, only his inaccurate statement. My Nmom ALWAYS does/did things because of "safety" or "an emergency". My mum would pee while I was showering and would yell at me when I tried to hide my naked body! i slammed my door after she took my If we leave her home alone for a few hours she'll order $25 worth of pizza for herself. Like I said, the war isn’t over. And my parents have no idea I’ve smuggled a boatload of my mom’s makeup to school. More like: Assumed lack of progress = poor time management = wasting all free time playing games behind closed doors = remove door for no privacy to game. I remember being told very clearly that my door would be taken off the hinges. But I understand where they're coming from. This is really upsetting me. (Well, part of it is because I'll lock my door and take a nap- and god forbid I get some rest) I don't do anything bad in my room, just draw/read. Ever. Even though I've completed two essays and have plugged in nearly all necessary information for my first choice school. As a teenager, I couldn't believe when my friends said they closed their door to play video games and listen to music. My sisters and their three friends who were spending the night were in the living room. Since I was a kid and even now at 19 I'm not allowed to lock my door. But we do not have family nearby and I can not afford $100 to get a sitter for several hours every weekend. I didn't dare disobey her. Or, more commonly, wake me up at dark thirty b'c she was having an anxiety attack. For a while, when I was young and naive, I took her word for it. She never did that again. There was no door. We click the key fob “unlock” and the car unlocks and then immediately locks again. It's hard cause its a very scary situation I was molested by my step dad from 6 years old till I was 16. If by some miracle we have ice cream in the freezer, she'll sneak down at night and eat it. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. On the other hand, this also means that she would burst into the room without a moments notice and try to "catch" me at something. Significant others and friends are all welcome. I know parents are older Note that this does not work if your parents do regular sweeps of the house for secrets. I don't have anything to hide, well actually I do, but they are my personal possessions. My boyfriend has a 2008 Kia Spectra that appears to have developed a mind of its own! :p Parents can get conservative at times. I demanded a I also lock it to feel safe at night. Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. I buckle down and do serious work on occasion, but most of the time it's really not something I want to be doing. Someone, please, tell me my parents are psychotic. But it makes me wonder, why do parents hate gaming? I remember being told very clearly that my door would be taken off the hinges. Jerk off everyday when they get home. Lol I doubt it, I already sleep more than average. She did, gleefully. I wasn't. In other words, yeah, I get the allure of wearing makeup as a kid. Yes, initially it was explained as a safety issue when I was little, and I could agree with that because they always harped on how irresponsible and forgetful I was. It’s not rare for fuses to blow, and when they do, electrical current will stop running to the door lock actuator, rendering the power door lock system useless. The doors randomly lock and unlock at very odd times - usually when we are trying to enter the vehicle. This left us with the same problem others Sometimes I don't know if they care about the way I feel or not. (Turns out with therapy that was never true it was all projection. Oh there was hell to pay. If it's quiet they're probably asleep. Then continue till you get your door back. In its guide to surviving the teen years, KidsHealth.org , which is sponsored by the Nemours Foundation, advises waiting until you see warning signs of a problem before invading your child’s privacy . Press J to jump to the feed. My parents did that so I the next day I went to homedepot asked for a door in X length and height. I got out of the shower immediately. She managed, but commented later that she did have to force it a bit! Fuck parents sometimes man they need to get fucking hit, New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. The site may not work properly if you don't, If you do not update your browser, we suggest you visit, Press J to jump to the feed. You do not feel you have the strength to prevent others taking what is rightfully yours? She's not overweight, but if she doesn't start realizing what she's doing she very well may become fat. birdlady, my suggestion is that when you get out, do not unilaterally deduct the cost of repairs from your rent. Maybe they think you should be sleeping more. They disabled the lock on my door because it was their "right" to barge in any time they pleased. My parents have recently been griping me about this issue and one day when I was not present, my parents removed my door handle completely. Well okay then. We do not have any age-restriction in place but do keep in mind this is targeted for users between the ages of 13 to 19. This is a support group for people raised by (or being raised by) a narcissistic parent. nGpa, nUnc, FLEA Mom (deceased), religious abuse. But mine is what I don't understand. And the last 5 years I lived here I could hear them fine but now, noooo your door needs to be open. Really?! I’m smiling as I type this, but I’m guessing that your parents remember being your age, and that makes them very nervous for you to have your door closed! I only recently had the thought in therapy that they literally did not consider how that sort of thing would impact our relationship. Lazy piece of shit can't fucking take them to the bathroom himself so he makes me do it. We had no bathroom lock and no shower curtain. When i was at home i would lock my bedroom door and just sit down on my chair, He would then rush over and stick his head into my skirt and start licking me , it felt so good that i would cum fast and that drove him even more Also, locking the bathroom door was a heinous crime. My mom instructed one of my sisters to grab my towel and rip it off of me. First of all, SO RELATABLE..! Obey!". My mom made the excuse that closing my door would affect the air circulation in the house. I used to have to get dressed while leaning against my bedroom door to keep them from walking in on me naked. My ex-grandfather kept “accidentally” barging in while I was changing, or sleeping. They may have taken my door, but they haven't started checking my browsing history. posted by grouse at 2:21 PM on October 7, 2009 If not, stay 15 to 30 minutes in your room, and check again for silence. Now, I've never been in that situation, sounds like a nazi thing to do. How can your Nmom charge in and start using the toilet when you're in the shower or how can your Ndad come in and physically remove you from the toilet because he has to go and his needs take priority over yours if you lock the door. That if there was an emergency of some sort an adult would need to enter and locking would impede that. My own Nmom used to literally wait until I was in my room changing clothes, and then barge in, and hold the door open wide while I was half, or completely naked-- and she'd do it with my sisters, and sister's friends/other guests standing in the hallway. I've gotten used to it after awhile, and also buy my own things on occasion with my own money, but my sister just takes stuff from the pantry to her room and eats like there's no tomorrow. My house, my things! Mine once came in while I was going and proceeded to lecture me on my tp usage. I responded with "I didn't use my debit card... You did." Sounds like you got your door knob back though, so that's good. I always heard that one- "it's my right" / "it's my house" like I get that, but why is privacy a big deal?? Since I was a kid and even now at 19 I'm not allowed to lock my door. Thank you! Ugh. If not, keep doing things quietly in your room, but if your parent(s) lock their doors, carefully try to hear through the door. I own the door and I own you! My parents have just confiscated both mine and my sister's doors from us. How can your Nmom charge in and start using the toilet when you're in the shower or how can your Ndad come in and physically remove you from the toilet because he has to go and his needs take priority over yours if you lock the door? Kids failing (compilation). Good luck with your college! That's so bizarre I'm sorry you had to deal with that. They adjust to what they don't like and then blame the adolescent for their unhappiness. ), But as I became a teen and tried to flex my individuation a little I was met with a snorting bull face from either parent, "You dare defy me! Bring a list of salons or hair shops in your area that specialize in dreadlocks. Super conservative. At 13, my family lived with my dad’s (now disowned) step dad. Same here, my door didn't have a lock, but it wouldn't have mattered if it did! r/teenagers is the biggest community forum run by teenagers for teenagers. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. It's interesting you say that. when in reality 80% of my gaming happens when I would otherwise be asleep. I don't like people touching my stuff, I don't like people in my personal space uninvited, I don't like people coming over to my house unexpectedly or without calling first, and I can lose my temper if I feel like someone's acting entitled to me, my things, or even information about me. Parents who let the matter go tend to do so to their cost. I'm still a huge freak about my privacy to this day. Like, if someone pulls my arm, pushes or pulls me, restrains my arms or my entire body from movement, or shakes me-- basically anything that makes my body move without my wanting it to. My mother refused anyone to lock doors. ", You shouldn't be doing anything you need to do with a closed door. she wouldn't let me leave so i left without permission. I know how claustrophobic I would suddenly become if I woke up and couldn't open my bedroom door. If somebody takes control away from me, I lose it. Every child deserves the right to lock their door at certain moments. Okay. Oh, and I'm supposed to entirely forget my childhood and enter the world at 18 as a blank, unaffected slate. I had the same experience. Each little thing you do will earn you credit toward getting what you want. You can let your parents know that you will take care of the space by showing responsibility in everything you do. I have thought about that though. Crazy, why would you want your child voluntarily reading books. Yes. Parents, teachers, and the like are welcomed to participate and ask any questions! Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. One step down from helicopter parents, but definitely beyond the "we do this only because we care about you" philosophy. My Nmom used to come into the bathroom sometimes when I was showering to make sure I was cleaning myself right. Dinner wasn't ready for another 25 minutes when I got out. That... actually sounds like a horrible thing for them to do. Dead power door lock switch : The power door lock switch is a relatively simple rocker switch. Minimal chips, minimal cookies, no candy, limited eating out, stuff like that.. I wasn't allowed to close the damn thing! I also used to get in trouble for reading at night too. In this skydiverge video we look at crazy dads telling their kids to do epic fails. She stated it was a "safety" concern. I And panicking if I didn't check in as soon as I got back to campus from home. wtf, New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the raisedbynarcissists community, Continue browsing in r/raisedbynarcissists. Our subreddit is primarily for discussions and memes that an average teenager would enjoy to discuss about. I don't really understand why. I put up with that stuff alll the time. Like the cap'n, my goal Indian parents have been seeing a type of society where they're afraid of ‘whom their children hang out with’, ‘what websites do "You shouldn't be doing anything you need to do with a closed door. Recently my dad is making me leave it open so I can "hear the dogs if they bark." My mom absolutely hates that i play video games, and hates video games in general. When they walk in on them say "you asked for this, i didn't". They told me closing your door was rude anyway. That was my punishment for arguing with her earlier that day about my needing privacy in the bathroom and in my bedroom when I'm changing clothes. She used the shower to target me in my most vulnerable state... One time I got in the shower about 30 minutes before dinner was ready and she came up to slap me because it was "highly disrespectful" for me to shower when dinner was ready. I get very upset if I feel my privacy is invaded at all. Cookies help us deliver our Services. My Nparents have to know what I'm doing at all times, I guess. They claim I "waste" all my time playing video games (when in reality 80% of my gaming happens when I would otherwise be asleep), and should be farther ahead in my research and scholarship applications and stuff. Your parents may be reassured knowing that your hair will be cared for properly. My parents did that so I the next day I went to homedepot asked for a door in X length and height. Locking the bathroom door was pointless because they'd get a paperclip and pop the lock from the outside, then march in and brush their teeth or use the toilet while I was showering. Then laugh when she flushed and the water went cold. ok - lets get this straight. She'd do this on purpose to humiliate me, as a punishment for closing my door or asking for privacy. Yesterday my wife tried to lock our UPVC door from the outside while there was still a key in the lock on the inside. Mom came home said I don't care if you paid for it with your money you don't deserve If we get protein bars for after workouts or on the go stuff, she'll grab like 3 at once and hide them. When I told my mom she didn't believe me nobody in my family would believe me it was really sad and emotional for me and I mean, it's not a ton, but it's more than many people have completed. So college applications = rip door. To be unable to lock a door in one's dream suggests there is something in waking life that you cannot handle. Oh god, same. This keeps items from being discovered by a quick look under the dresser. my Mum took my iPad, SCHOOL laptop and phone away because i had a headache at the dinner table so i put my hoodie over my head. Only when I was older did I realize that they just wanted to constantly keep an eye on me. The only opportunity I get is at night in my room, but I'm afraid because I don't want my parents to hear me or anything. I feel I am being violated. I sympathise with the poster. My advice for other parents: do not do this. Ugh, this. "Sure you took away my phone, but now I am not going to get out of bed for school until you are screaming mad and late for work." lol my parents pulled of my doorknob & lock once because my brother broke his and apparently that meant both of ours had to be broken. I feel you. Honestly, what the fuck? when I was young, they MADE me give them my debit card PIN # JUST out of control... no other reason. I feel bad when I snap on people, but after what I've been through, I can't help it. My parents took off the door from its frame. I'm flipping back and forth between finding scholarship opportunities and checking this post. I would not put someone else into that panic. But maybe that's it, instead of gaming/sleeping, I should be doing "something productive". In all honesty, I just like having that feeling of privacy. I have a very, very specific pet peeve, where if someone touches me in a way that moves one of my body parts against my will, I will snap. Everyone laughed and made comments about my body as I cried and tried to cover my private areas with my arms. Yeah, sounds about right. The intent was that I was always to be subservient, never allowed to "grow up", and they believed I was an extension, not a person. Still, I wouldn't actually say they're psychotic, but that is a pretty big overreaction imo. After I calmed down, I apologized and had to explain to her that it's a powerful trigger for me, and why I have that trigger. I took that as a stab of bitterness On the other hand, my kid WILL NOT touch your stuff, and neither will I. I understand there Your brain is still developing your reasoning abilities, and it’s When I was about 13, she once demanded I come out into the living room after I'd just gotten out of the shower, and had nothing but a towel wrapped around me. I mean, they think that scholarship stuff is wicked important. And of course removing the bedroom door. Since you asked nicely, your parents are psychotic. This may sound silly but I'm a 15 year old girl I want to masturbate without my parents knowing. As much as I would like that, it'd probably make my situation even worse. Drove it back to my house, put the bitch up. Yeah, nMom didn't even like closed doors. Like you know, changing my clothes, going poop, taking a shower. Because "what if I died"...!?!! It has become a game of “how fast can we get the doors open”! Nmom, Ndad, NC and not regretting it one little bit. Tape things to the underside of your dresser or inside the top of the drawers. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. I live in a very health-conscious family. 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